Long term Relationship: Why do couples broke up?

We always look forward to happy ending when entering a romantic relationship. We have many adjustments to keep the relationship last long,  but as years go by, we are wondering where the relationship is taking us.

 We are battling with these kind of thoughts: "Does he have plans of marrying  me?, Will she say "yes" If I propose?" 

It is very normal to have thoughts like that. Who would not want to be with the person you've vowed yourself to marry? I think, no one. Unless, there is a change of heart and that's what happened most to the long term couples, ended up in a heart-breaking ending. 

What could possibly be the factors of ending up this way?

💔 Discovering the ugly sides after years of being together

-When  partners are fighting or argue over something vehemently,  the worst side of personalities showed up, and both parties 

dislike what they have discovered from each other's personalities. 

Acceptance and Adjustment are necessary 

in building up strong relationship. 

We all have bad sides but every flaw can be 

polished when there is cooperation 

and the willingness to change.

💔 Lost of Romantic excitement

-it is a fact that in later years of relationship the romantic excitement will fade due to familiarity. Both presence won't be as desirable as the first time you've started your relationship. 

Time and Effort can jump-start the cold feelings. Rekindle each other's love by reminiscing the moments where you were so in love. 

💔 No long, intimate conversation

-no time to talk about each other's shortcomings because of time being occupied by personal and societal activities.

Relationship issues are not addressed well which resulted to misunderstandings and petty arguments. 

Commitment will bring the couple closer. 

It fortifies each other's trustworthiness to share sentiments without prejudices.

💔 Seeking attention outside the relationship

-When both have unmet needs, this may result to running into someone who can fill that space. That's where cheating comes in. 

Intimacy is a kind of aromatic spice that enlivens a gloomy mood. An exclusive moment where couples solely focus on each other, feel the love together. This kind of bond is not necessarily going sexual but a moment where the couple can freely express their feeling. It can be a simple cuddling or words of affirmation. 

💔 Long distance Relationship

-being physically apart  for quite a long time made you long for each other's presence . Quarrels are often due to jealousy, suspicions, inconsistent communication which may lead to break ups, thereafter

this form of relationship is honestly hard to manage, particularly, to whose profession requires working overseas. Even married couples struggling from this. 

It demands patience, good-tempered 

and self-restraint to keep the relationship alive. Have space for forgiveness always. Choose love over hatred. 

💔 Mutual Agreement

-Couples separated in goodwill. No issues or hardfeelings. It might be, they did not see each other ended up being together for the rest of  their lives. 

Nothing lasts forever but connecting to 

an overflowing source (God) will keep the cup of love full and sufficient, which firmly binds every relationship, enduring variety of trials to go through steadfastly. 

1 John 4:16

And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. 

God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, 

and God in him.